Love Languages

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This past Sunday Ben and I started our first ever Adult Sunday School class. It's for "Newly and Nearly Married Couples" and the focus is around the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. So far, with one class under our belts, we really enjoyed it and have already gotten a lot out of the basics we learned. There are a few other couples in the class that we know and we look forward to the upcoming meetings and sharing and learning how to become better couples, following God.
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The Five Love Languages are:
1. Words of Affirmation (compliments and statements of feelings)
2. Giving & Receiving of Gifts (whether a holiday or any day, expensive or free)
3. Quality Time Together (not just in the same room, but sharing meaningful time and just being together)
4. Acts of Service (helping each other out: taking out the trash, doing a load of laundry, just helping)
5. Physical Touch (whether kissing, a hug, holding hands, etc.)
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So far we have just gone over the 5 languages and how, even though you may not both speak the same languages, in order to have a successful relationship, you MUST learn what your partner's love languages are, and relate to them in that way (even though it's not how YOU speak). I have found it to be very true so far. I know that we will go into more depth in the upcoming sessions, but so fr we have just gone over the basics.
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Our assignment this week was to figure out which languages you go by, and what your partner's are. And this is what Ben and I discovered (just by knowing what means the most to each of us already, AND by taking a quick 25 question quiz that tells you what you probably are).
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Mine are:
Primarily: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
Secondarily: QUALITY TIME TOGETHER.
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Ben's are:
Primarily: QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
Secondarily: PHYSICAL TOUCH
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Throughout this past week we have actually, I feel, had better conversations, more quality time together, more satisfaction in our times together, and felt more fulfilled in our relationship, simply by being aware of what is important to each other in the ways we interact. You also need to pray together, and have meaningful conversations about your faith and trust in god (which Ben and I do quite often).
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I am very excited about this class, and even when it is over, hope to continue taking Adult Sunday School Classes. I always "crave" more worship time, more learning about Christ and his word, and more growth in Ben's and my Faith as a couple. I recommend for couples, even if not to get the book or join a class on it, but be aware of the importance of learning your husband/wife's love languages so that you can relate and understand each other and always be moving up and getting better in your relationship.